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Along with the many joys that come from planning a wedding are the inevitable worries. Paramount among these—particularly when planning an outdoor ceremony—is the fear of rain on your wedding day. While there are many things you can control about your big day, the weather will never be one of them, but that’s no reason to worry.

Instead of fearing the possibility of poor conditions, you can embrace what the world gives you and make the best of it. You might be surprised to find that dealing with rain on your wedding day could be a desirable mishap, thanks to gorgeous lighting for perfect photos, an excuse for you and your guests to get cozy, and an unexpected perspective to begin your marriage with.

 

To put your mind at ease, we asked brides to share what happened when it rained on their wedding day (and why they wouldn’t have had it any other way).

The Pictures Will Be Gorgeous

“Once we got our pictures back, the light was beautiful, and it was so fun walking around huddled under an umbrella together. Plus, our ceremony was outside, and everyone had blankets and cuddled together.”

It Can Cool Down a Summer Night

“Luckily we were already under a tent eating when the major downpour occurred. When dinner was over, the rain had ended, and the beautiful, foggy sunset was perfect for pictures and dancing. Considering our wedding was in July, I was happy that the rain brought a cooler night instead of scorching sunshine.”

The Perfect Ceremony Isn’t Always What You Had Planned

“It rained on my wedding day, and it ended up being a great surprise. I had an outdoor ceremony planned, and instead, we got married in front of our venue’s beautiful fireplace. Our planner and florist brought in the arch and still decorated. It ended up being so pretty, and the rain stopped just in time for us to take photos outside. It was the perfect ceremony for us, and our guests loved how cozy it was.”

Your Guests Will Get Cozy

“Aside from optimal lighting for outdoor photos (and making all the flowers and trees more vibrant), it got everyone a lot more cozy at our backyard reception. We were so happy to see both of our families and friends mixing it up, where they might have otherwise spread out into their separate cliques.”

You’ll Learn to Let Go

“There was a torrential downpour on my wedding day in July 2015. Our ceremony was scheduled to be outdoors, and we had to scrap everything last-minute and move the ceremony inside. At the time, I thought it was the worst thing that could happen, but what I didn’t know is how much the experience would change my perspective on things. I used to need control over every aspect of my life and couldn’t deal when things fell out of line. Since then, I am so much more laid-back, less rigid, and happier.”

Everybody Loves Dancing in the Rain

“My husband and I have been together for 22 years and married for 14. We were married at our 1915 farmhouse here in Colorado. The day before the wedding, I had my silk gown cut to tea length but left the train. I had a hunch it was going to rain. People were sitting around hot as sin not doing much. As soon as the skies opened up, and it rained, people began dancing like fools to our bluegrass band. My dress miraculously stayed clean, and people had a blast in the rain, and they say it was the most fun wedding.” —

It Makes for a Great Story

“It poured on my wedding day (along with the day we got engaged, and the day of our engagement pictures), but it was perfect. Our venue was an old factory, and the dark moodiness made the day-of pictures amazing. But mainly, we chose our venue so we didn’t have to worry about the weather, so it was almost meant to happen.”

The Day Will Feel Magical

“Our wedding was at Momofuku Daisho in Toronto. We did it all on the terrace that connects the restaurant to the Shangri-La Hotel. It was tented with string lights everywhere and potted herbs on the table, and when it started raining, it was so enchanting. And it made sure it wasn’t too hot for any of our guests. Not to mention, we got the most amazing photos before it started raining because of how cloudy it was. It worked out perfectly.”

 

Creating the perfect wedding is a priority for most brides as they have dreamt of that day all their lives. Perfection is person/couple dependent, and this should be taken into cconsideration when planning a wedding. Simple wedding, do not mean cheap weddings. Here are some tips for planning a simple wedding.

Wedding to-do-list: This might be a little orthodox, but it is important to write down even the tiniest detail in planning a wedding, especially a simple one. You do not want last minute run arounds. If you are planning your own wedding, it is best to draw this list with people who you know have experience in planning weddings. On the other hand, if you are planning a simple wedding for someone, please consult the couple for specific details since it is all about what they want on their big day. One might ask that about the peculiarity of to-do lists for simple weddings. For simple weddings, the to-do-list is more precise, detailed and short.

Budget: It is always important to begin plans with a specific amount of money you are willing to expend in the course of preparing for the wedding. If you do not do this, chances are you will spend so much and still run into debts at the end of the day. You start by declaring the total money you have for the wedding, then you make allocations to all the money-related preparations in the wedding to-do list. Remember, this is just to help you manage your expenses.

Guests: Most people who want simple weddings want small intimate gatherings of their close friends and family. The couple does not want to say their vows in front of strangers who are just there to have fun. Translation: the guest list has to be short, restricted to close family and friends. Making and distributing limited number of invitation, and safeguarding them from social media is one way to restrict the number of guests in attendance. Guests will, therefore, be ushered into the wedding venue strictly by invitation.

Venue: Of course, if you want a simple wedding you will choose a location that suits the theme of your wedding as well as give you room to decorate to your taste. Depending on the number of guests, you can also choose a location that will be cozy for all present.

Vendors: This group of people are crucial to the success of any wedding. They can make or break it; we so don’t want them spoiling our simple wedding. Have a sordid arrangement with your vendors. You should use recommended vendors and give them specifics about your wedding. You don’t want them offering services you don’t require at your wedding.

Bridal Party: In planning your simple wedding, you also have to consider reducing the number of people in the bridal party. Less is more in this case. Since we are going for sophisticated but simple, you can be a little flexible with the dresses and tuxedos for bridesmaids and groomsmen.

Menu, Decoration, and Attire: We have combined these points because you can easily stress yourself on either of them trying hard to keep them simple and classy. Keep your menu as simple as what you serve your friends when they come over for lunch; you are not trying to impress anybody. Decorations are lovely, and they create an ambience at your wedding: keep them calm and affordable. You don’t want to break the bank for decorations. Every lady wants to wear a lovely dress on her wedding day, but you should wear something gorgeous and very comfortable.

Now you know you don’t need so many skills, expertise or money to make your big day turn out how you have always wanted if you are planning your wedding or planning a simple wedding for someone. Planning a simple wedding can be very easy. Just start planning right now, and you will be surprised at how much success you will achieve.

Your wedding DJ shouldn’t “just play music” he should be in charge of running the show, taking care of all your program needs, as well as keeping the party going all night long. Below are some great things to keep in mind when you are hunting for the perfect wedding DJ.

DJ’s Set The Wedding Mood

Wedding DJs do a lot more than just play music. A good wedding dj should offer an amazing music library of popular and traditional music. They should pride themselves on doing your wedding music your way. These guys keep your wedding running smoothly and the wedding program on track, so your reception is party central. From announcing the entrance of the newlyweds, to the first dances, and choreographed dances, to the cutting of the cake, and timing of the toasts–a premier DJ can help you design your perfect reception and take care of all the little details. That way, you and your guests can enjoy your big day one special moment at a time.

The All-Inclusive Wedding DJ

When it comes to hiring a DJ, they should have some sweet all-inclusive add on options for your reception like lighting, photo booths, and more. The reason Premier Entertainment is the most amazing DJ service you can choose all comes down to the variety of services they offer! Plus, they have packages that you can customize to fit your wedding needs.

Premier Entertainment DJ Packages include:

  • One Professional DJ/MC
  • Professional intelligent dance floor lighting and sound
  • 24/7 personal online planning tools
  • Wireless microphone
  • Complete digital music library
  • Unlimited advice to help plan your big day
  • One on one meetings to personalize everything to your needs
  • Full-time office staff and thorough event planning

Wedding Statistics

These Wedding Statistics may shock you but they are true & from well known reliable sources!  Read them all here and learn from other Brides & Grooms mistakes!  It will make you rethink your Wedding Reception Priorities!

AFTER YOUR WEDDING RECEPTION…

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72% of all brides say they would have spent more time choosing their reception entertainment. 

 

Almost 100% say they would have spent more of their budget on the entertainment. 

 

During wedding planning, Brides say their highest priority is their wedding dress, attire, followed by the reception site and caterer – receptionentertainment is among the least of their priorities

 

 

Within one week after their reception, 78% of Brides say they would have made the entertainment their highest priority! 

 

When asked 81% of guests say the thing they remember most about a wedding is the entertainment (Band / DJ).

 

65% of all couples that chose a band to entertain at their wedding reception, said, if they had it to do over again, they would have chosen a disc jockey!

 

*These statistics were published in St. Louis Bride & Groom Magazine . Sources include: Simmons; USA Today, National Bridal Service, The Knot, Brides Magazine.

 

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Wedding Disc Jockey rates are vary based on talent, experience, emcee ability, service, coordination, equipment needed, music knowledge, mixing ability & personality. Not all Wedding DJ’s are Created Equally, as many of you know – we have all seen the “Bad” Cheesy Wedding DJ!

Rates for the DJ industry vary greatly, ranging from $350.00 to $3,500.00 with an US average of $1,200.00 for a 4-5 hour reception. 

 

The best price is not always the best deal, especially if you are planning a wedding. As the surveys above conclude that 100% of brides would have spent more money on their entertainment & made it their #1 priority in hindsight!

 

A Professional Wedding Entertainment company will normally invest 12 to 30 hours to your special event but it may appear that you are only paying for “4 hours”. Consultations, music purchasing & editing, preparation, set-up & tear-down, education, phone calls, travel & other business related endeavors add up to the overall success of your special once in a lifetime day.

 

Modern Bride Magazine: Entertainment is only 5% of your Wedding Budget, but TWICE as many guests will remember your entertainment, more than anything else!

 

The numbers don’t lie…

The cost of entertainment at your reception is only a small portion of your overall budget.  As Modern Bride Magazine states above, only 5% of your overall budget will be spent on entertainment.  However, over 50% of your guests will remember the performance of your disc jockey more than anything else at your reception.  Think back to the last affair you attended, what did you eat? What Color was the Napkin? What was the guest of honor wearing?  The Chart Below shows you what was spent compared to how well it will be remembered….

 

Percentage of Money Spent On A Wedding Reception

Percentage of What Guests Will Remember Most About Your Reception

 

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When you’re spending thousands of dollars on a once-in-a-lifetime event, doesn’t it make sense to reserve the finest entertainment, especially since it is only 5% of your over all budget??

 

Yes, your Gown & your Food are very important.  Still, the selection of Music &  Entertainment can determine the success of your event!

 

A qualified Wedding MC can guarantee your guests will stay after dinner to party; the Photographer & Videographer will have something to shoot & your guests will stay long enough to really remember your gown!

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Here is a Chart that shows you Popular Wedding Seasons, what does this  mean to you?  Either avoid booking those times to save money or make sure you book all your vendors early.  Because all the great vendors will be booked sometimes up to a year or more in advance!  You don’t want to be “stuck” with who is left!  There is usually a good reason why a vendor is not booked 2 weeks before your wedding!

 

We wish you the bestwith all your Planning but remember that sometimes the smallest overlooked detail may have the largest impact on the SUCCESS of your Wedding Reception!

 

What Do You want in a DJ/Entertainer?

I always ask my clients how they feel about DJs they have seen perform in the past. Invariably they can all remember that wedding or event they attended where the DJ was terrible and they had no fun. When asked why the DJ was not good the replies are usually the same:

 

1 – The DJ didn’t play good music

2- The DJ couldn’t read the crowd

3- The DJ refused to play requests

4- There were times when the music just stopped or was “choppy”.

5- The DJ just hung out behind their box all night and didn’t interact.

Let us discuss:

 

1- The DJ didn’t play good music…

This is an interesting concern since all DJs pretty much use the same pre-recorded music. If they are keeping up with what is current and have a decent catalog of music then there is no reason they can’t play “good music”. The problem is not the music, but the DJ’s inability or deliberate decision to play music that will motivate their audience to dance. The truth is that every event, every crowd is different. A play-list that packs the floor and rocks the house at one event may not necessarily succeed at another event next week. Why? Simply put, “different strokes for different folks.” Some audiences like a mixture of classic rock, 80’s, and Motown; another group might really like Old School and newer Hip Hop, Funk, and Line Dances. If the DJ doesn’t know who he’s playing for then they won’t dance.

 

 

2- The DJ couldn’t read the crowd…

This is a common concern. What this really means is that the DJ didn’t do enough research or ask his/her client the right questions before the event and he is winging it…ALL night. OR the DJ believes that his experience is enough to carry him through the event. While there are tried and true play-lists that are considered “floor packers” a DJ that relies SOLELY on these lists or their own “expertise” many times find themselves struggling to get or keep people on the dance floor. It is important for the client to be involved in the music selection process. Why? Because you know your family and friends better than any DJ ever can. You’ve been partying and dancing with them for years so, you know what they like and what will get them moving. By giving your DJ your input, it will take less time to “read” the crowd and tells the entertainer the kinds of music that pretty much guarantees will keep your guests dancing all night.

 

3- The DJ refused to play requests…

We keep hearing this over and over. I don’t get it. The bride, groom, or a guest comes by the DJ’s station and requests a song and the DJ says “I’m not playing that…” WHAT?!! Why would a DJ do that? Well, several reasons, none of which I agree with. One: Pride. They don’t want to be the DJ that plays the “Chicken Dance” even if THE BRIDE tells them to. Two: They think they know better…in their opinion, the song doesn’t fit into their pre-planned play-list and playing it will “ruin their rep”. Three: The DJ doesn’t like the song, NEVER plays that song, or thinks that your request is merely a “suggestion” that they don’t have to fit into their repertoire because, in their opinion, it will interrupt their flow of music.

 

It is true that there is a science to mixing music. It is a method to keep people dancing to play music within the same beat range. So, we do play songs that have similar “speeds” if we want to keep ‘em dancing. Playing an obscure song or a song that does not match the beat currently playing, may cause many of the dancers to leave the floor, and once they leave, it can be difficult to get them back. That being said, refusing to play a bride’s or groom’s request because you don’t think it will “fit” with what you are playing basically means you are playing for yourself and your rep and NOT entirely for the folks who hired you.

 

 

A really good DJ will find a way to work their clients requests into the evening because THAT’S WHAT HE’S BEING PAID TO DO! Make sure you ask your DJ how they plan to keep your guests dancing and how they handle requests. REMEMBER: you’re signing the check at the end of the event, so, YOU SHOULD GET WHAT YOU’RE PAYING FOR!

 

4- The music just stopped or was “choppy”…

This might happen accidentally, or it might be the result of poor mixing skills, or poor planning. There is no logical reason this should happen throughout the entire event. It means that your DJ is not as experienced as he may have led you to believe. It means they are “winging” it and really don’t know what song to play next. It could mean their laptop just froze and they don’t have a CD or back up music source ready to go. Or it could mean that the DJ company you’ve hired is training their new guys on YOUR TIME. All of this translates to people either waiting for the next song to begin or leaving the floor. You don’t want that on your wedding day…or at ANY event for that matter!

 

You should be able to review your DJ past performances. This is why I have posted comments from previous clients. Make sure you are getting a seasoned professional who knows how to transition smoothly from one song or genre to the next without those awkward silences or choppiness that is a mood killer on the dance floor.

 

5- The DJ just hung out behind their box and didn’t interact…

Many DJ companies actually sell “against” an interactive DJ. They call it “cheesy” or “intrusive” or “NOT classy.” I even heard of one DJ company who uses the slogan “We don’t do line dances, or interaction, just Classy, LOW-KEY, weddings and parties…” REALLY? When was that last time YOU went to a party or wedding reception that you had an absolute BLAST at and walked out saying “I had so much fun, that party was so LOW-KEY!”Or a better question might be: “Would YOU rather attend a LOW-KEY event, or a party that wasAMPED UP & ROCKIN’ ALL NIGHT LONG?! As one of my clients recently said on Weddingwire.com“a DJ can make or break a party…” You don’t MAKE a party by being LOW-KEY. How do you want your reception or party to be remembered? A) LOW-KEY? or B) Remembered forever as the best party your guests have EVER been to!– I’ll take option B any day of the week! You want “low-key” try a funeral…NOT A WEDDING RECEPTION!

 

There is a saying: “I do what I do, because I can do it. You do what YOU do, because you CAN’T do what I do.” The simple truth is that 95% of DJs don’t interact with their audiences BECAUSE THEY SIMPLY DON’T KNOW HOW! Most DJs can’t dance and don’t want to learn. They use statements like “I let my music do the talking for me.” Or “I don’t have to interact, I just play good music…” and when that music fails to motivate people to dance? The only thing they can do is PLAY ANOTHER SONG. Don’t believe the hype. A good entertainer, as my client said above “will make sure that your party is fabulous even if it means that he gets on the dance floor to share a few moves and get even the most timid of guests to show theirs too.” Not to take over the floor, but to be there just enough to get folks started if need be and keep them going on the floor all night.

 

So, what do you want in a DJ/Entertainer?

 

1- A DJ that plays music specific to your likes and to those of your friends and family.

 

2- The ability to work WITH you to create a playlist that will motivate your guests to party all night long!

 

3- A DJ who cares more about what YOU and your GUESTS want than he does for his own rep, and who will honor your requests. PERIOD!

 

4- A seasoned entertainer who can transition music smoothly & keep the music flowing in such a way that your guests will stay on the floor all night.

 

5-A DJ who knows how to interact just enough to be a party motivator and make your event memorable!

 

Sounds like a job for…THE DANCING DJS! After all, Knock ‘Em Out is not who we are…IT’S WHAT WE DO!

 

Buyer Beware! Preferred Vendors

 

 

In this down economy everyone is trying to create business and profit.  We recently heard of how Catering Halls & Venues are turning a little extra profit.  This seems to be happening more on the East Coast but can be applied to anywhere.

Even before the recession many halls received a “kick back” for passing business to a particular vendor.  The difference now is many halls are demanding a cash kickback to have vendors work in their halls.  (Sound like the Sopranos to you?? – well it basically is!)

 

Examples:

Say you have a Florist you choose to do your reception and now your venue ( who you are also a client of ) says you have to use their florist  – NOT because they are better or cheaper but because they get cash back from them!

 

Imagine having the perfect DJ or Band selected only to find out later that your Venue is forcing you to use their entertainment!!

 

The Videographer or World Class Photographer that did an awesome job for your BF’s wedding can’t be hired because your Venue has a “preferred vendor” for you.  (They may not be any good or may be out of your budget!)  …You get the picture.

 

Other Scenarios

Other scenarios that have been happening are certain halls will just give you,  and your vendors a difficult time because you didn’t choose their preferred vendor for YOUR special day!

 

It may also happen that they may deny certain equipment (with out good reason) to be setup in your party, such as a Large Screen, Plasma, or Dance Lighting, because they had it built in BUT your external vendor already secured it for you at a reasonable rate.

 

We have heard of this situation where the hall has built in lights & tells the DJ not to bring their lights (that their clients paid for) in to the hall.  Then the hall just turns their lights on but will not control them at all!  So imagine trying to set the mood for your first dance & the halls strobe lights are on full blast!

 

Just remember just because the hall calls them “preferred vendors” does not mean that they are the best choice for your event.  They merely do two things pay for advertising in the catering halls “book” and pay the hall a percentage commission from your money back to the hall!

 

It is very rare that a hall recommends a vendor strictly because they will benefit the mutual client, actually in some cases the sales person will get the kick back from a vendor, so they are even more greedy!

The last story we will leave you with, which may be the sneakiest… is using a “in house” vendor as a sales pitch or deal closer…. Such as we will throw in the ________ – (DJ, center-pieces, flowers, balloons, etc.) (I am not speaking about cocktail hour, extra room’s or extra food that doesn’t cost the venue) strictly a vendor…..

Goes back to you get what you pay for if they “throw in” a $1500 Disc Jockey – one of 2 things is happening – you are either paying for it and it is hidden in the price OR they are giving you a really bad cheap vendor that they can pay an hourly rate to…… not a professional.

 

So the outcome? You paid for a vendor you really didn’t want or you saved money and got a shoddy vendor… either way the hall goes to the bank laughing!

 

What to Do?

Buyer Beware, let Halls do what they do best cook the food, and do your research and compare at least 3 vendors before making an informed decision.  Also ASK your venue if they are recommending their vendors based on skill, excellence or commission!

 

 

This information has been collected from various sources and is available also at www.perfectweddings.us

Christopher Abell

Premier Entertainment Wedding DJ Service
10805 Sunset Office Dr Suite 300
St Louis MO 63127

314-266-2666
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